What parcels are you getting from the universe’s delivery van?
Why do we tend to react to others?
What makes us become reactive?
First off, here I need to visit the universal Law of Attraction. Understanding how this works is a key to understanding why you have the experiences that you have.
Key Point about the Law of Attraction
All experiences you have are a direct result of your internal vibration; you are creating your life through what you vibrate. There are no exceptions to this rule. You are driving the bus of your life and reality.
Contrary to popular belief, no one does anything to you; they are always just the conduits that the universe uses to validate your internal vibration. In a sense, it has absolutely nothing at all to do with the person presenting to you the experiences. In terms of vibration, they are really just showing you … yourself.
I have a saying I often use: “Don’t shoot the messenger.”
The big mistake that is often made is we do not see the real reason why we are reactive. We believe the person we are interacting with is the culprit; we externalise blame or judgment. It is very easy to blame someone else for the disharmony we see. However, to see Truth we must recognise what we experience is always what we vibrate within ourselves.
The experiences we have are always a validation from the universe of what is vibrating inside us. Because we do not wish to acknowledge it is really our own energy, we react outwardly to the person: “How dare you make me see something I buried and don’t want to see?”
Reaction always results from perceiving someone as either judging or attacking us. Reaction often occurs because the person stirs up some emotion or imprint we buried years ago that we hoped we would never see again—out of sight, out of mind.
All people are just the delivery vans the universe uses to bring to us a clear picture of what we are within. The person has done you a massive favor by coming into your life and bringing you clarity to what you hold within.
When we have a negative reaction, we are given in that moment an opportunity to recognise we are holding onto some negativity that is currently burdening our life. All people give us clarity as to what we are creating in our lives. They let us know if we are burdening our life with non-truth, or supporting our lives with loving Truth.
When we understand why we react, we empower our lives. Through seeing Truth, we can better our experiences and learn to respond to life, as opposed to react to life. Response always comes from Truth. We can remain alert to any old reactive patterns popping up, and when we do recognise them we can respond by seeing them as wonderful opportunities to love and value ourselves more.
Response is always the positive approach to situations. Response steps us towards the life we seek. Reaction on the other hand only serves to burden our lives. Sometimes we are not even aware we are reacting until it’s too late. Once the fire has been lit it becomes harder to positively respond.
Here’s something to think about:
If a delivery van pulled up in your driveway and the driver came to your door and handed you a parcel, would you get angry with him or her?
Obviously, you wouldn’t. Why would you get angry or reactive to someone giving you a parcel or present? That would just be plain silly.
Well, everyday of your life you have delivery vans pulling up in your reality in the form of people and experiences. They are all giving you what you have ordered from the universe—a gift of Truth. Your order comes in the form of what they do and say, and then you react or respond to them depending on your conditioning, patterns and beliefs.
Your internal vibration is what is being validated from people and experiences. They are just the means/transport to bring an external version of yourself to be validated. And if it is negative energy, it gives you opportunity to love and value yourself more by positively responding to what you see before you.
We should be thanking all the people that annoy us. They are truly gifts in our lives, presenting to us great opportunity to love and value ourselves even more. It is amazing how all souls support each other to move towards Truth in this way.
I strongly recommend you get yourself a copy of my audio recording about the cause of anger. This recording will help you enormously to understand why we have the experiences we have. Simply by listening to this, you will totally change the way you think and feel towards all people.
This recording is one of a series titled Essential Teachings. This particular recording is titled ‘The Cause of Anger’.
To obtain a copy go to this link: http://www.trevorgollagher.com/hika-store.html